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Live A Better Life, Build A Better Business: Good Advice from 27 Speakers, Authors and Thought Leaders
1. GOOD ADVICE 2013
EDITION
from 27 speakers, authors & thought leaders
TO HELP YOU LIVE A BETTER LIFE
& BUILD A BETTER BUSINESS
compiled & edited by Shawn Ellis, Founder of The Speakers Group
Shawn Achor • Ed Brodow • Chris Brogan • Brené Brown • Marcus Buckingham • Jack Canfield • Carol Grace
Anderson • Ram Charan • Mimi Donaldson • Chip Eichelberger • Shawn Ellis • Keith Ferrazzi • Joseph Grenny
• Vicki Hitzges • Allan Karl • Patrick Lencioni • Doug Lipp • Harry Paul • Neil Rackham • Jeff Salz • Dr. Neil
Shulman • Diane Sieg • Dr. Kevin Soden • Robert Thompson • Erik Wahl • Benjamin Zander • Joel Zeff
2. “What’s your best advice to live a better life
and build a better business?”
Wouldn’t it be great if you could gather several “chapter” at a time, I hope you’ll find this
of today’s top speakers, best-selling authors and collection of wisdom to be enlightening and
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Part One: It Starts with You Part Four: Pursue Excellence
Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life by Jack Canfield A Better Life Is What You Make of It by Ram Charan
Make Your Own Path by Chris Brogan Stop Doing What You Hate by Marcus Buckingham
10 Ways to Mind Your Business & Mind Your Life by Diane Sieg Who Kidnapped Excellence? by Harry Paul
Who Are You Becoming? by Robert H. Thompson Make the 3% Choice by Chip Eichelberger
The Power of Vulnerability by Brené Brown (Recommended TED Talk)
Part Two: You Can’t Do It Alone Part Five: Be Willing to Adapt
Find a Way to Help, Find a Way to Care by Keith Ferrazzi 3 Tips to "Make It" in 2013 by Mimi Donaldson
The Ultimate Competitive Advantage by Patrick Lencioni Change How You React to Change by Joel Zeff
Three Ways Effective Leaders Influence Change by Joseph Grenny Non-Attachment - The Key to a Successful Life by Dr. Jeff Salz
The Need for Mentoring by Dr. Kevin Soden Three Keys to Better Leadership & Increased Innovation by Allan Karl
A Legacy of Encouragement (Remembering Zig Ziglar) by Vicki Hitzges Focus. Commit. Adapt. by Erik Wahl
Train Like Disney by Doug Lipp The Transformative Power of Classical Music by Benjamin Zander
Ten Tips for Negotiating Successfully in 2013 by Ed Brodow (Recommended TED Talk)
The Most Important Word in Selling by Neil Rackham
Part Three: Make It Fun! Conclusion: Take It One Moment at a Time
Fun Works! by Carol Grace Anderson This Moment Matters by Shawn Ellis
An Rx for a Better Life by Dr. Neil Shulman (aka The “Real” Doc Ho!ywood)
The Happy Secret to Better Work by Shawn Achor (Recommended TED Talk)
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5. PART ONE:
It starts with you...
Take responsibility.
Be yourself.
Be mindful.
Make a commitment.
Be vulnerable.
6. Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life
If you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for everything you experience
in your life. This includes the level of your achievements, the results you produce, the quality of by Jack Canfield
your relationships, the state of your health and physical fitness, your income, your debts, your
Affectionately known as "America's #1 Success Coach,"
feelings—everything! This is not easy. Jack Canfield has studied and reported on what makes
successful people different. He knows what motivates
them, what drives them, and what inspires them. He
In fact, most of us have been conditioned to blame something outside of ourselves for the parts of brings this critical insight to countless audiences
internationally---sharing his success strategies in the
our life we don’t like. We blame our parents, our bosses, our friends, our co-workers, our clients, media, with companies, universities and professional
our spouse, the weather, the economy, our astrological chart, our lack of money—anyone or associations.
anything we can pin the blame on. We never want to look at where the real problem is—ourselves.
Message Jack
If you want to create the life of your dreams, then you are going to have to take 100%
responsibility for your life as well. That means giving up all your excuses, all your victim stories, all
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circumstances. You have to give them all up forever.
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right, to produce the desired result. For whatever reason—ignorance, lack of awareness, fear,
needing to be right, the need to feel safe—you chose not to exercise that power. Who knows why?
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choose—that’s right, it’s a choice—you choose to act as if (that’s all that’s required—to act as if)
you are 100% responsible for everything that does or doesn’t happen to you.
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7. Make Your Own Path
by Chris Brogan
To live a better life and build a better business, I Chris Brogan is CEO & President of Human Business
recommend learning how to untangle from both Works, an education publishing and media company
dedicated to helping professionals work better, do the
work they want, and to be brave. He is the New York
praise and criticism. Neither are your opinions Times bestselling co-author of The Impact Equation,
and a sought-after professional keynote speaker.
and both cause you to react. It's great to receive
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8. 10 Ways to Mind Your Business & Mind Your Life
Neuroscientists have proven the practice of Want to bring more mindfulness into your life
mindfulness -- paying attention to the present and work? Here are my top 10 mindfulness
moment -- creates new neural pathways and practices:
rewires the brain, leading to heightened brain
by Diane Sieg
function. This is why it is so effective in 1. Gratitude From the chaos of the emergency room to the calm of
treating addiction, mental illness, and chronic 2. Meditation her yoga mat, Diane Sieg, RN, CYT, CSP, former
emergency room nurse turned speaker, author, life
pain. Mindfulness is also highly effective in 3. Slowing down (speech, eating, driving, etc.) coach and yoga teacher, shows organizations and
business and life. 4. Doing one thing at a time individuals how to practice mindfulness and energize
the performance in every area of their lives.
5. Deep Breathing Exercises
Mindfulness is the key to optimum health, 6. Beginner’s mind
wealth, and freedom in every area of your life 7. Journaling
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to Emotional Intelligence, the ability to 9. Detachment
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moment, with multiple distractions and
diversions, we have to make intentional
choices to practice mindfulness.
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9. Who Are You Becoming?
In my book, The Offsite: A Leadership Cha!enge Today, in all of our hustle and bustle, I sense a
Fable, one of the characters describes a boyhood longing for simple, practical results. Yet, often,
experience of watching a butterfly emerge from many get lost in the maze of complexity --
its cocoon. His less than helpful efforts quickly thinking, of course, more complexity equals by Robert H. Thompson
teach him that in order for the caterpillar to more value or more equals better.
“become” the beautiful butterfly there is a period Robert H. Thompson, author of The Offsite: A
Leadership Challenge Fable, is a sought-after speaker,
of silent soft change before the necessary So, do you want a better life at work and at executive coach, journalist and thought leader in his field.
struggle to emerge. Interrupting this organic home? Here are four simple practices I Robert’s clients have included AT&T, Amgen, Hewlett-
process may destroy it. encourage you to try every day for at least a Packard, Johnson & Johnson, Lockheed Martin, Nike,
Qwest, Sony, Sun Microsystems, SVB Financial, The
week: Gap, and Visa to name a few. Robert also is a senior
Do you create a consciousness cocoon allowing consultant with the Tom Peters Company/UK.
yourself space for some silent soft change before • Show Up: I am present in a way that ensures
emerging in a new form? others feel important.
• Step Up: I encourage curiosity in myself as Message Robert
Most people set and give up on resolutions well as others.
quickly as December’s fog fades into January’s • Serve Up: I encourage a ‘we,’ not an ‘us vs.
back-to-the-slog. The commitment just doesn’t them’ mentality. Visit his website
last long. Complaints of too much struggle and • Speak Up: I communicate with a clear,
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makes a commitment. And, without silent soft change. Perhaps, you too, will grow
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me. Nothing.
But what should we commit to? My one word
answer is: Simplicity.
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10. RECOMMENDED
TED The Power of Vulnerability
TALK
by Brené Brown
Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW is a research professor at the
University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She
has spent the past decade studying vulnerability, courage,
worthiness, and shame. Brené is a nationally renowned
speaker and has won numerous teaching awards, including
the College’s Outstanding Faculty Award. Brené is the
author of the #1 New York Times Bestseller Daring Greatly:
How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We
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11. PART TWO:
...but you can’t do it alone.
Be generous.
Create a healthy culture.
Be an influencer.
Mentor others.
Be an encourager.
Train effectively.
Negotiate so everyone wins.
Sell the way they want.
12. Find a Way to Help, Find a Way to Care
You can sum up my philosophy for building business relationships with this mantra:
“Find a Way to Help, Find a Way to Care.”
by Keith Ferrazzi
People always ask me, “but how?” So I’ve broken relationship currency – forms of generosity that you
can use in building business relationships – into three categories. If you want to transform your life, you need the help of
others – powerful relationships with people who give you
support and access, and push you to exceed your
Universal currency refers to our innate human ability to connect to others. We can all embrace potential. Keith Ferrazzi can help: He is the world’s
foremost expert in professional relationship development,
intimacy with another human being by listening, empathizing and caring. We can all become the bringing 20 years of research and experience to the art
colleague who blocks off that extra time to fetch a cup of coffee or who connects more deeply with a and science of business relationship development.
client, customer, employee or peer. Universal currency also includes encouragement.
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help them within their organization — perhaps by sending them the best book on the subject or by
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Personal Currency: To discover your personal currency, don’t look inside — that’s too hard for
many people. Instead, look outward. Personal currency requires discovering what others need to be
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your problem-solving ability, your network of relationships, your black belt in judo or simply your
unfaltering optimism. The secret is to share enough of yourself with someone so that they’re willing
to share their dreams and aspirations with you, along with the issues that are holding them back.
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13. The Ultimate Competitive Advantage
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click to watch! by Patrick Lencioni
Patrick Lencioni is a bestselling author, speaker and
consultant with over two decades of experience working with
CEOs and their executive teams. He is founder and president
of The Table Group, a consulting firm dedicated to building
healthy organizations. He is the author of many bestselling
books including The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, which
continues to be a weekly fixture on national bestseller lists; his
books have sold over three million copies.
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The one area where we can still maintain an advantage is creating
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a culture that is so healthy and so whole that it becomes almost
impossible for other organizations to compete with us.”
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14. Three Ways Effective Leaders Influence Change
The most important capacity we possess is our ability to exert influence. Not a day passes that we
don’t try to change either our own or others’ behavior. And yet, most of us struggle to influence by Joseph Grenny
ourselves or others to behave differently.
Over the past 25 years, my co-authors and I sought out and studied powerful influencers—those who Joseph Grenny is the four-time New York Times best-
selling co-author of Influencer. He is also a dynamic,
had remarkable abilities to influence change—rapidly, profoundly and sustainably. Here are three things sought-after speaker and co-founder of VitalSmarts, an
these influencers do that accounts, in part, for their remarkable and repeated success: innovator in corporate training and organizational
performance.
1. Change the Way You Change Minds. In order for others to adopt new, healthier behaviors they
must first believe that they can do it, and second, that it’ll be worth it. To motivate others to believe
they can and should change, take field trips to watch the target behaviors in action or create vicarious Message Joseph
experiences by telling vibrant and believable stories.
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3. Harness the Sources of Influence. Deeply entrenched behavior doesn’t have one cause but a
conspiracy of causes. Often, we assume that if we just train people, behavior will change. However, we
must be adept at employing the personal, social and structural sources that influence behavior.
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By using experience to change people’s minds, identifying vital behaviors, and targeting the sources of
influence that drive behavior we can make change virtually inevitable.
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15. The Need for Mentoring
(FROM THE NEW BOOK, FROM THE EMERGENCY ROOM TO THE BOARD ROOM)
There is an old Chinese proverb that states, • Offer the program to as many people as
“Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. possible. It should not just be for newbies but
Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a for any employee wanting to learn more. by Dr. Kevin Soden
lifetime.” This is the basic concept behind the Dr. Kevin Soden, an Emmy, Telly, and International
“See one, Do one, Teach one” principle in • Make the program attractive to mentors Freddie Award-winning medical journalist for more than
by rewarding them. By rewarding mentors 20 years, can now be seen each day as the host of
medicine. An experienced mentor transmits their with praise, promotions or money, you Healthline, a daily half-hour medical show on the
skills or knowledge to a less experienced reinforce their behaviors and the importance Retirement Living Network. He was a National Medical
Reporter for NBC News Channel and has also appeared
apprentice who, once skilled, transmits this on of the program. regularly on NBC's Today Show.
to others who come behind him or her.
• Clearly outline the program’s objectives
Mentors (the term “Preceptor” is used in some and rules. A general framework defining
expectations for both mentors and protégés is Message Kevin
medical training programs) are generally
essential. There needs to be some formality,
considered to be role models for their protégés
but allowing some flexibility is best.
and serve as guides for ethical conduct and Visit his website
communication styles. Because young • Be careful to pair the right people. Ideally,
professionals tend to copy their teachers’ you want to pair people who get along and will
behavior both consciously and unconsciously, it’s be able to learn from one another.
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imperative that mentors are chosen carefully
because their influence can set a course for a • Evaluate the total program regularly. Test
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changes as needed.
Some characteristics of good mentoring
programs are:
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16. A Legacy of Encouragement (Remembering Zig Ziglar)
Recently my mentor, Zig Ziglar, came to the end of life. On the news after the service, a local
Dallas reporter said, “Even in death, Zig Ziglar can pack a house!” And he could. by Vicki Hitzges
Several thousand people attended his service. Hundreds more watched his service online. Why? It Vicki Hitzges helps companies create cultures of
encouragement. Having worked in communications all
wasn’t because of Zig’s deep business acumen. It wasn’t merely due to his home-spun wisdom. her life, Vicki knows the value of telling stories, using
humor, sharing useful content and involving her audience.
Her clients appreciate her clear, fun messages that teach
Zig had universal appeal because he was a motivator. He encouraged people. He truly believed them to conquer change, speak in public, think creatively
and connect with others.
that anyone who listened to him was “endowed with the seeds of greatness.”
People who heard Zig speak accepted his verdict of them as true. And hearing Zig’s belief in them Message Vicki
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They “planned to work and worked the plan.” Folks around the globe who heard Zig speak or read
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drop them a note. You’ll be appreciated and loved for your kindness. And Zig’s legacy of
encouragement will live on.
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17. Train Like Disney
“How do they do it? How do they create the nicest and most customer-focused employees in the world?”
Disney University: The very name carries clout. The very name conjures up images of excellence. by Doug Lipp
Mention this highly-regarded institution to any business leader and the inevitable questions begin: By age 29, Doug Lipp was the head of the training team
at the world-famous Disney University at Disney’s
“how do they do it?” and “how can they create some of the nicest, most motivated and incredibly corporate headquarters. With more than 30 years
customer-focused employees in the world, year after year?” combined experience at Disney and in his private
practice, Doug teaches organizations and individuals real-
life skills to redefine service and leadership excellence,
In large part, due to the success of the Disney University, the word “University” is invariably found in embrace change, and compete in the global
marketplace.
the title of training departments in corporations and organizations around the world. Yet, arguably
very few of these training departments and universities have attained the same level of success for so
many years. The reason? Most don’t enjoy the following secret ingredients that the Disney University Message Doug
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2. Clarity of purpose; the desired outcomes of every training event are crystal clear.
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are doomed to become universities-in-name-only.
That doesn’t have to be true for your company, though. Now you know Disney’s secret ingredients!
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18. Ten Tips for Negotiating Successfully in 2013
Your ability to negotiate successfu!y in 2013 can make the difference
between success and failure. Here are 10 tips:
by Ed Brodow
1. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want. 6. Aim high and expect the best outcome. If
Ed Brodow is the world's top spokesman on the art of
Successful negotiators are assertive and challenge you expect more, you'll get more. Sellers should ask negotiation. SEC Chairman Harvey Pitt dubbed Ed "The
everything – they know that everything is for more than they expect to receive, and buyers King of Negotiators" and Forbes Magazine ranks Ed as one
of the nation's leading dealmakers. Ed's practical, no-
negotiable. I call this negotiation consciousness. should offer less than they are prepared to pay. nonsense approach to an often-misunderstood subject has
helped audiences and readers all over the world to
overcome their fears and get what they want in business
2. Shut up and listen. Negotiators ask probing 7. Focus on the other side's pressure, not and in their personal lives. He is the bestselling author of
questions and then shut up. The other negotiator yours. Successful negotiators ask, "What is the Negotiation Boot Camp (Doubleday).
will tell you everything you need to know. pressure on the other side in this negotiation?"
3. Do your homework. Gather as much 8. Show the other person how their needs will Message Ed
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about time has the advantage. Your patience can 10. Don't take the issues or the other person's
be devastating to the other negotiator if they are behavior personally. If someone is rude or
in a hurry. difficult to deal with, try to understand their
behavior and don't take it personally.
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19. The Most Important Word in Selling
The most important word in selling — whether you engage in simple, transactional sales, or
complex, consultative sales — is TRUST. All selling depends on trust.
by Neil Rackham
The question, then, is what do buyers look for in a seller they can trust?
Neil Rackham is known throughout the world as a
speaker, writer and seminal thinker on sales and
marketing issues. Three of his books - including the
In our research — looking specifically at consultative buyers — we found that three qualities rise classic, SPIN Selling - have been on the New York Times
to the top: best seller list and his works have been translated into
over 50 languages. His work in sales training won him the
Instructional Systems Association lifetime award for
• Concern. Does the salesperson care about what I feel and think? Does s/he listen to me? Does Innovation in Training and Instruction.
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• Competence. Is the salesperson’s advice professionally sound? Is s/he technically proficient in
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While we can always refine our sales skills, sales strategies, and sales psychology, remembering the
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21. PART THREE:
Make it fun!
Have fun.
Live like a winner.
Laugh... a lot.
Be happy.
22. Fun Works!
As a kid, wasn’t the circus a big, magical experience? Life and business could and should be
more like that. Here’s why I say that:
by Carol Grace Anderson
Carol Grace Anderson is a motivational expert and author
For years I lived in a tiny 18’ trailer with my parents and sister in a trailer park. The best part of the popular book, Get Fired Up Without Burning Out! She
was that most of our neighbors were circus performers! I was in awe every day after school also has an inspiring story in the million-selling Chicken
Soup for the College Soul ®. Just like you, Carol has
watching them practice their daring tricks and routines. Wow! overcome some big life challenges. From growing up in a
tiny trailer, going blind in one eye, and losing her younger
sister to breast cancer, she learned how to turn struggle
into strength. She can show you how, too!
Looking back, I realize that the circus was a great metaphor for life — a mix of fun and hard
work. The tightrope walkers, jugglers, and acrobats all had to have skill and laser-sharp focus.
The flip-side is that they could see the wonder and enchantment in the eyes of the audience Message Carol
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returned. Fun works!
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23. An Rx for a Better Life (Doctor’s Orders!)
1. Live like a winner! seven billion books out there. They are simply
brain transplants on paper!
I do feel that we all won the lottery. It takes 50 by Dr. Neil Shulman
million sperms to fertilize one of five eggs. We I love connecting with strangers and finding out Dr. Neil Shulman is an Associate Professor in the School
are a winning sperm/egg combination. If one their “table of contents” -- and then selecting a of Medicine at Emory University, and he is also the author
of many books promoting medical literacy for both adults
other egg or sperm made it, then we would not chapter and hearing them talk about it. I have and children, as well as humor and children's books. He is
be here. Soooo.... we should all enjoy the “dash” found strangers who are just as interesting and the associate producer of the 1991 film Doc Hollywood,
based on one of his books. He is a past president of the
of our life. caring as Michael J. Fox, billionaires or big-time Patch Adams nonprofit organization (the Gesundheit
politicians. Institute), and is also a highly sought-after speaker for
2. Laugh... a lot! Fortune 500 companies.
I suggest that we all connect, whether while
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TED The Happy Secret to Better Work
TALK
by Shawn Achor
Shawn Achor is the author of the international bestseller,
The Happiness Advantage. Shawn is regarded as one of
the world’s leading experts on the connection between
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26. A Better Life Is What You Make of It
Successful people who are also happy are those who are able to work where
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27. Stop Doing What You Hate
Around this time of year, a lot of us are doggedly trying to keep up with a resolution to do more
— exercise more, eat more healthy foods, read more. All worthy goals. But my advice is to do less: by Marcus Buckingham
Marcus Buckingham first conquered the bestseller lists
give yourself permission to stop doing what you hate to do. in 1999 with First, Break All the Rules. Following up on
his highly successful debut book, Marcus continued to
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28. Who Kidnapped Excellence? (FROM THE FORTHCOMING BOOK BY THE SAME TITLE)
We all strive for excellence. I believe no one wakes up in the morning and looks into the mirror and
says to themselves, “I’m going to be average today.” We all strive to be our best. by Harry Paul
Then why are we so willing to accept average? We accept it everyday! Where we work, when we go to As the author of six world-renowned books, and Co-
the store, eat at a restaurant or call a company on the telephone. author of the global phenomenon and best selling
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organization or individual to get back, attain, and sustain excellence. You do this by paying attention to:
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29. Make the 3% Choice!
The leading cause of death in America is not heart disease, cancer, stroke or diabetes. It is the unhealthy
lifestyle that most Americans are addicted to which is the true cause. A study by Mathew Reeves, a
Michigan State University epidemiologist, finds that only 3% of Americans maintain a healthy by Chip Eichelberger
lifestyle. It is a situation that is causing dire consequences for millions of Americans. You cannot perform
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“I was really quite surprised at how low that number was,” said Reeves. The research published in the health, vitality and success for 19 years. Clients include
journal, Archives of Internal Medicine, found that only 3 percent undertook four basic steps that define Ernst & Young, Tommy Hilfiger, ADP and Bank of
a healthy lifestyle: America.
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Be willing to adapt.
Be grateful for what you have.
Control what you can control.
Be open to possibilities.
Stay curious.
Embrace innovation.
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33. Change How You React to Change
My client conference calls always start the same. accept constant change. We have to change how
Everyone awkwardly says hello and then we wait we react to change. Specifically, be able to
in silence for the last person to jump on the call. control your reaction to change. by Joel Zeff
The same conversation starts minutes later. “We Joel Zeff is a national workplace expert, speaker and
are dealing with a lot of change,” someone says. Most change is out of our control. We cannot humorist. His spontaneous humor and vital messages
“Change is very difficult for everyone right now,” control the economy, stock market, customer have thrilled audiences for years. Corporations and
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teamwork, and leadership. His first book, “Make the Right
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34. Non-Attachment: The Key to a Successful Life
(One Adventurer's Opinion)
Non-attachment is the key to Her worry was evident in her conceived destination... but
all happiness in life and work. taut visage and tight posture. never, ever detached.
Her attachment to her specific by Dr. Jeff Salz
Not detachment. vision of 'success' was ruining Why? Dr. Jeff Salz is a leading Keynote Speaker,
the very vitality, humor and Anthropologist, Thought Leader, Explorer and Guide. For
Let me explain the crucial optimism upon which she had Detachment is the very more than 20 years, he has been delighting audiences
with his uplifting and mesmerizing accounts of global
distinction. built a career. Her attachment opposite of non-attachment. trips, travels and treks. His keynote addresses on the
to a specific outcome was giving Detachment is dispassion, subject of adventure receive standing ovations and
audience members say that "I will never forget what I
Detachment is giving up. Non- her blinders when what she disinterest. Detachment leads learned from Dr. Jeff!"
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35. Three Keys to Better Leadership & Increased Innovation
When it comes to leading a successful life -- personally and professionally -- there is nothing that
creates more value and brings more possibilities than a strong leader and innovative ideas. Too often,
however, leaders fall into the rut of the day-to-day or their comfort zone, often unwilling to change or by Allan Karl
try anything new. Entrepreneur, photographer, adventurer and marketing
pro, Allan Karl founded a top-50 digital marketing
agency. Then he traveled the world—alone on his
The better path to successful leadership is through increased innovation. Here are three keys to that motorcycle. “Stay curious,” he says, inspiring audiences
success: to embrace change, face fear and step outside the
comfort zone. Through captivating stories and inspiring
photography, Allan motivates and moves audiences into
Foster a culture of curiosity — Stay curious. Don’t stymie idea generation or create a culture of action.
fear. Encourage teams to ask why, try new things and challenge the status quo.
Embrace & encourage change — Make change the norm and be less impacted when it catches
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We live in an era where the only way to compete for jobs and customers is to differentiate and stand
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curiosity, change and risk-taking in strategic initiatives, we are positioned well above the
competition and therefore are able to master the art of differentiation and succeed as an
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36. Focus. Commit. Adapt.
A friend of mine does the psychological profiling for the elite armed forces. In this case his
work focuses on the US Navy Seals. He tests and scores them in both physiological and
psychological challenges to determine how they continually achieve levels of superior by Erik Wahl
performance: As an internationally recognized graffiti artist, author and
entrepreneur, Erik Wahl redefines the term “keynote
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and an artist, he has grown to become one of the most
• How do they remain unflinchingly calm in the face of the most harrowing situations? sought-after corporate speakers available today. Erik’s
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37. RECOMMENDED
TED The Transformative Power of Classical Music
TALK
by Benjamin Zander
Benjamin Zander is the conductor of The Boston
Philharmonic Orchestra and a guest conductor around
the world. Mr. Zander is also one of the most sought after
speakers in the world. His partner Rosamund Zander and
he have collaborated on a best-selling book, “The Art of
Possibility” which has been translated into fifteen
languages.
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40. This Moment Matters
I hope you’ve enjoyed the contributions from me to my contribution to this compilation of
the great speakers, authors and thought leaders ‘good advice:’
within this compilation. More importantly, I
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action in your life and business.
This moment matters because everything Shawn Ellis has been studying, writing and speaking
about the topics of motivation, productivity and
After all, the best advice in the world is happens in this moment. This moment performance for over 15 years. As founder and president
meaningless if not acted upon. matters because we’re always in this moment... of The Speakers Group, he has partnered with many of
yet how many moments do we miss, either today’s leading authorities to bring empowering messages
So in conclusion, let’s address that: How do we because we’re moving so fast, or because we’re to individuals and organizations through live events. With
his “This Moment Matters” message, he’s on a mission to
take action on what we’ve learned within the replaying events of the past, or because we’re help today’s busy professionals be more present for more
pages of this e-book? worrying about what’s coming the future? of the moments in their lives and businesses.
I think we all want to do the right thing. We So try this: Be here now, and you can be
want to follow best practices... But it’s not so somewhere else later.
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What is the right thing to do right now?
We live in a world that constantly tells us to “do
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best—the way to be your best. And that brings you don’t, well, a new moment starts right... now!
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41. Thank you for reading and sharing.
Thanks to the speakers and authors for contributing.
We wish you great success on your journey to...
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