“The culture of any organization is shaped by the worst behavior the leader is willing to tolerate.”
In this talk we will explore why agile is way more than a set of practices but defines a whole new culture for organizations.
A culture that requires organizations to raise their level of consciousness in order to create better and more humane workplaces where individuals can bring their whole self at work everyday.
Levering on the Management 3.0 toolkit, activities borrowed from Improv and tools used in Life Coaching we’ll deep dive into topics like Values, Delegation, Listening at a deeper level and Trust.
- Why let it go from the command and control mindset?
- Which tools can you use as an Agile leader?
- Why trust is the foundation?
- Why self-awareness is key as an Agile leader?
- As a leader, am I a roadblock in the Agile adoption initiative?
2. Who am I?
• Entreprise Agile Coach
• Publishing,Telcos, Industrial Property, Banking...
• Startup companies and MNCs
• Works at Palo IT, a boutique Innovation consultancy
• LifeTransformation Coach (ACC - International Coaching Federation)
• Explorer, seeker, salsa dancer and cheese lover
Twitter: @mahe_sylvain
LinkedIn: https://sg.linkedin.com/pub/sylvain-mahe/2/275/8b0
“No problem can be solved from the same
level of consciousness that created it”
- Einstein
3. • Can you help us standardize the workflow
in Jira for all the team
• Who should be the PO: the BAs?
• Who should be the SM: the PMs?
• Can you document all the agile
ceremonies, roles and artefacts so that we
can update our official process on the
Intranet
• Please assess the level of agility of our
teams so that we can compare them
• Oh, and if you could normalize velocity
across teams that would be great…
Things organizations often ask
19. 4 tips to grow your agile leadership
1. Take a honest look at yourself
2. Sharpen your questioning and listening skills
3. Connect with others
4. Create trust
5. Cultivate appreciation
21. • What kind of questions do you usually ask?
– Open / closed
– Leading
– Do you make good use of the silence?
• Are you able to shut up and listen?
– Seems easier than it is in reality ;-)
– Stay in the client’s space
– Be fully present
• Do you know your intention?
– Listening? Judging?
(telling a diving trip story)
- I was maybe 10m deep and could
barely see.
- Oh, that was scary, wasn’t it?
- I was maybe 10m deep and could
barely see.
- Oh yes, that reminds me of my
diving trip last year…
Observe
22. • My realizations
• I talk too much – silence is key
• I want to convince
• My presence is on and off
• It’s hard not to make suggestions because I’m the
smartest and the world needs to know what I have to
say
• From now on
• I will know myself better
• I will try to be a role model
PRESENCE > NON JUDGMENT > SILENCE
My journey
24. • What are you able to pick up beyond the words?
• What happens when your interlocutor is in an emotional state?
• Or when you interact with a doer or a thinker
• What are your triggers?
• How often do your questions start with “Why?”
• Welcome to the land of powerful questions!
Physical
EmotionalIntellectual
Observe
25. Facts
Emotions /
Feelings
Values, beliefs,
frameworks
• Chit chatCosmetic
• Self centered
• I (…feel the same, …want to ask,
…want to know…)
Conversational
• Mirroring, paraphrasing
• Perspective sharing
• Body language, tone of voice
Active
• Keywords
• Unsaid
• Feelings
Deep
Communication iceberg
27. • My realizations
• I’m Intellectual, Emotional
• I’m at ease with emotions
• I’m not (always) truly curious
• I want to understand my client’s issue and then
follow my train of thoughts
• I (sometimes) take things personally
• From now on
• I’ll go out of my comfort zone and experiment
• Say 100x in front of the mirror: “There is no
problem to solve”
FEEL > LISTEN > MIRROR > EMPATHIZE
My journey
34. • My realizations
• I’m very open to talk about myself at work
• But it’s hard to ask people questions about
themselves
• From now on
• Next time I meet this person, I’ll find something
new about her
CURIOSITY > CARING
My journey
40. • My realizations
• Trust creates psychological safety, a key
component of high performance
• Good starting points are equal voice +
empathy
• From now on
• I’ll observe how often people say “I don’t
know”, “I need help”… to gauge how safe is
the environment
• I’ll do my best to embody vulnerability-
based trust
EQUAL VOICE > EMPATHY
My journey
42. • How does it feel when you appreciate someone?
• And when you receive an appreciation? How do you react?
• How often do you say “Thank you”?
• Are you speaking from the heart when you say it?
Observe
45. • My realizations
• One of my biggest motivator
• It’s not that easy to just say “Thank you”
• Is a game changer in some organizations
• From now on
• I’ll show the power of appreciation to my clients
JUST SAY THANK YOU > JUST ENJOY
My journey
46. 1. Take a honest look at yourself
2. Sharpen your listening and
questioning skills
3. Connect with others
4. Create trust
5. Cultivate appreciation
…and practice, practice, practice!
Take-aways
• Play Delegation Poker
• Draw a colleague’s Personal Map
• Play Moving Motivators
• Facilitate a round of appreciation in your
next Retrospective
• Listen more and learn about powerful
questions
• Run Coaching Dojos
- Welcome to this session
very happy to be here
Thx organizers
- A few words about myself
My name is Sylvain.
I work in Singapore as an Enterprise Agile Coach.
I use to say that I have 2 lives, during the day I coach Agile teams, and at night and weekends I work as a Life coach.
Today I want to share with you how I became an Agile coach and when I realized that coaching was not what I thought it was.
ACTIVITY: Ask a few questions to the group
Coach?
SM?
- Tech background
Project / Pgm management waterfall
Around 10 yrs ago, I was working on a Titanic project. Losing money (million of euros), lost trust… Came across Agile and decided to give it a go. Great success. Restored profitability, trust and quality dramatically improved. I became Mr Agile. Events, books, CSM…
Agile center of excellence. Trained ppl. Evangilization. Introduced Agile to my org, internal trainer.
Slowly shifted from pgm management to trainer… Did that for 3 years.
After a few years of practicing. Kept coming across the word coach (SM is the coach, Agile coach…). I started seeing myself as a coach.
What I had in mind was the sport coach. To me a coach was an experienced Agile practitioner.
After all, I’m a coach
- I have been practicing for a few years already
- I support my team, I cheer them up
- To me coach = sports coach
Standardize workflow in Jira
Who should be the PO: the BAs?
Who should be the SM: the PMs?
Document the agile ceremonies exactly
Assess level of agility so that we can compare teams
Normalize velocity…
At the top: org chart, processes, tools…
At the bottom: mindset
Levels of consciousness of orgs (following spiral dynamics: levels of consciousness of human beings)
Ability to operate at lower levels, but not higher
What happens when you try agile in orange? (see Bunning)
Agile requires higher level of consciousness
And then your strat eats your tactics for lunch…
Leaders shape culture esp in big orgs
Leaders is the limit
Leaders go first
But we’re all leaders
Cannot change others: start with yourself
Workforce has changed a lot: creative workers instead of uneducated ppl.
Rules from the past: 40hrs work week = less mistakes on a an assembly line
Alignment enables autonomy
EGO
Judgment
Difficult to create significant conversations that way
Fully present means:
Do you catch yourself wanting to speak?
Do you interrupt the story teller?
Do you hijack the conversation?
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Longer version:
Have a debrief within the groups
I discovered my dark side:
+/- etc…
Judgment
My agenda
Take things personally
Impatience
My ego, I want to shine
I’m scared not to have the RIGHT solution
Drivers
EGO
Judgment
Difficult to create significant conversations that way
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Longer version:
Have a debrief within the groups
Levels of listening, Listening pyramid
Said and unsaid, go beyond what’s said
Give examples
- Cosmetic
Conversational: Here, you relate what is being said to your own world, situations your past recall, your strong opinions about the matter and so on. Most likely, you end up being the one talking, sharing your own experiences and giving advise. But do you think ppl want your validation? Approval? Most of us just want to be heard.
Active: you are focused on the person or team in front of you. You are connected by eye contact, deep listening to what each person is saying and what the person is saying “between the lines”. You are trying to understand the perspectives and intentions of this person by letting yourself see the world from their position. You start going beyond what’s said, beyond the words.
Deep: you are doing the same as on level two, however you are also sensing the feelings; the happiness, frustration, the sadness of the one in front of yo - and you are reflect those feelings back
Describe circles:
Do
Think
Feel
Experiment with different people
In order of importance (for you as a person)
Then fulfilled/unfulfilled
Then show impact of a decision
A great way to start the conversation about Trust.
Optional:
If we want to transform the world of work, it’s important to live by the agile values. People, empowerment, trust, openness . Coaching embeds a lot of these values and it’s a great starting point .
Scott Dunn (eat our own dog’s food. We agilists are very well positioned to be the leaders of tomorrow).