Those who reach out to connect with others show leadership, resourcefulness, assertiveness, and influence.
When you proactively reach out to contact others, you’ll feel more confident, more connected, and even more powerful.
It allows for an exchange of value. You can facilitate the exchange by sharing the value map. Learn about others, add value to them, and show them how they can add value back to you if they wish to do so.
Here are 3 important benefits of reaching out to expand and deepen your networks.
1. Faster career growth and access to better opportunities.
70% of people found a job through connections according to Payscale. Connect and to tap into the brains, souls, and resources that other people have.
2. More relevant networks.
When you reach out online, you are on the driver’s seat, speaking to whom you are interested in instead of trying to strike luck.
3. More confidence.
Insecurity happens when you reach out only when you want to ask for something because it feels non-genuine and one-sided.
Tap into the abundant people resources around you.
Challenge yourself to speak to out-of-touch family, friends, former bosses, mentors, colleagues, school mates, and even strangers in your industry or target company.
Choose 7 people you haven’t talked on the phone, virtually, or in-person in the last 12 months and reach out to them in the next 7 days.
If you want to get step-by-step tips, then signup for this 7-Day video-based training and challenge to help you get in touch with forgotten contacts. You can also watch the first challenge video here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JWC2SxzEGKQ
4. When You Connect You Are…
Proactive Resourceful Influential Connected Powerful Confident
5. The best time to
connect is when
you don’t need a
connection.
6. Connect to
facilitate the
value exchange:
learn about
others, add value
to them, and
show them how
they can add
value back to you
if they wish to do
so.
7. Stay Connected With Your Network Benefits
Faster career growth and access
to better opportunities.
70% of people found a job through connections
according to Payscale. Connect and to tap into the
brains, souls, and resources that other people have.
More relevant networks.
When you reach out online, you are on the driver’s
seat, speaking to whom you are interested in instead
of trying to strike luck.
More confidence.
Insecurity happens when you reach out only when
you want to ask for something because it feels non-
genuine and one-sided.
11. This
challenge
is
simple
• REACH OUT TO 7 PEOPLE, ONCE PER DAY-
You’ll connect and ask for a virtual face to
face chat with cold contacts or new people
every day for 7 days in a row.
• GET DAILY TIPS Along the way, you’ll get tips
and support from me.
• SCHEDULE AND MEET Enjoy the connection
you will create and nurture
Sign Up Here
12. Objectives
Overcome fear of reaching out by taking action
Gain self confidence
Create mutual value
Network and connect despite social distancing
Stretch yourself. Get out of your comfort zone
14. THERE IS NO FAILURE. THE ONLY
FAILURE IS TO NOT TAKE ACTION.
15. What if… ?
“What if I’m socially awkward or introverted?”
No problem, I designed this challenge to help you overcome that awkwardness and get talking to
people.
“What if I don’t know enough people?”
Even better, this challenge will help you get to know people!
“What if I don’t know what to say to people?”
I’ll give you a list of things you can talk about!
“What if I miss a day?”
Then you continue from the next day!
You don’t need to be perfect, just to get started and going.
16. Rules for challenge
• Choose someone you haven’t talked to in
the last year or a complete stranger
• Don’t choose someone you’ve talked on
the phone or virtual or in person in the
last year
• Your goal is to get a call or zoom call
schedule with them, and then to have it
17. 3 Key Levels in Reaching Out
Out of touch
family & friends
• Neutral relationship
• Complicated
relationship
Out of touch
former work
colleagues,
mentors, bosses
• Know you well
• Weak ties
Strangers
• Normal people
• Very powerful &
influential people
18. Challenge Schedule
Day 1
• Friend /
family
• Mindset
Day 2
• Friend /
family
• Approach
Day 3
• Friend /
family
• Conversation
Day 4
• Past work /
school
• Approach
Day 5
• Past work /
school
• Conversation
Day 6
• Stranger
• Approach
Day 7
• Stranger
• Conversation
Days 1 - 3
Contact someone you are
comfortable with and know
like a friend or family
Days 4 - 5
Contact a former
colleague, boss,
professor, or teacher
Days 6 - 7
Reach out to a
stranger
Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat Sun
20. “Succeeding in business is all about
making connections.”
Richard Branson
Founder of the Virgin Group
21. Assignment - Day 0
Preparation
Brainstorm 5 names of family or friends
you haven’t spoken to in more than 1
year. You can change these later.
Brainstorm 5 names of former work
colleagues / boss (or school if you’ve
only worked in one place) that you
haven’t spoken to in more than 1 year.
You can change these later.
CHECKLIST
22. Assignment - Day 0
Preparation
Family & Friends
Name 1 _________________________________________________________________________
Name 2 _________________________________________________________________________
Name 3 _________________________________________________________________________
Name 4 _________________________________________________________________________
Name 5 _________________________________________________________________________
Former work colleagues / boss / school professors
Name 1 _________________________________________________________________________
Name 2 _________________________________________________________________________
Name 3 _________________________________________________________________________
Name 4 _________________________________________________________________________
Name 5 _________________________________________________________________________
24. 10 Habits Of Confident Communicators
How To Be Assertive Crash Course
7-Day Reach Out Challenge
15 Ways To Easily Speak Up In Meetings
How To Be More Appreciated At Work
Quiz - Your Work Communication Style?
9 Elements of Winning Goal Setting System
7 Steps To Say No Without Hurting Feelings
Speak Up Challenge
Here are FREE resources
for you to learn to:
• Advocate for yourself
• Reach out
• Deal with negative
feedback
• Ask for what you want
And much more with
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skills – CLICK HERE.
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Notas do Editor
Tell my story with FF at JnJ from article.
I met with my first boss 8 years after I worked for him. He happened to visit the city where I was living on holidays. He told me something that I never forgot.
He said that “if you stay out of sight, you’ll be out of mind” and that I should stay in touch with him. He shared how another ex-employee contacted him at least once every year and how he really liked it. I had not contacted him once in those 8 years.
If you want others to remember you then stay in touch. Relationships require being present with certain frequency.
I did a poor job in staying connected with friends, bosses, work colleagues, and mentors even though I knew the importance of nurturing my past contacts. I felt awkward, I feared rejection and appearing needy.
Staying in touch with former colleagues is a form of networking. Instead of growing your circle you focus on keeping it.
Staying in touch shows you care. How does a good friend show she/he cares about you? By remembering you, wanting to know what is happening in your life, and finding ways to support you. Caring is being present and showing interest in someone. You also show you care by offering connections, articles, and opportunities that may be useful to them.
It also keeps you informed about them. People’s lives change at a rocket’s speed. They may move to another city or country, start a family, change jobs and careers several times. Many of those changes may be on their social media profiles. However, other changes such as passion projects, hobbies, travels, and family issues may not be in their social media.
Finally, it keeps you in their mind. If you are on their mind, they will remember you when they are in your town and when they see an opportunity that can help you. You can also access them more easily if you need help or advice.
Last time I did this I met and even got to interview some amazing people, and re-established contact with people I had not talked to in years! It felt amazing.